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Thursday, January 4, 2018

Two more days of Christmas--for liturgical folks



                On Christmas Day, I sat quietly—except for scolding Greye about his constant short forays into the frigid attic and back, leaving the door ajar—and reveled in Sunday’s, Christmas Eve day, “Christmas at Couchwood.”
                My four adult children, spouses, and five grown grandchildren—if you can call age 16 “grown”—spent the earlier part of the day with their dad, and the later part with their mom—moi.
                I had already traveled to Tull to church, returning at 11a.m. to finish last-minute cleaning, and perhaps have a chance to sit with the newspaper. Didn’t happen. Oh, I got done what I intended to, with twenty minutes to spare.
                 That included making a batch of mac-and-cheese for a granddaughter who, last Christmas, betook herself to the kitchen, opened the cupboards, spied a box of said product, and—without consulting me—proceeded to do just that. This year, though she knew it was waiting, either she ate too much other stuff, or she forgot. Not to worry, her cousin Billy ate it later that night.
                Everyone came laden with gift bags and Walmart sacks of left-overs from their noon meal in Bryant--as well as additional food–in case we didn’t have enough. My black eye meant explaining (despite the advice from my Canberra blog friend to “don’t explain”) how it happened. I also didn’t do like several Facebook friends jokingly suggested and make up a doozy of a story.
                I tripped over a box of Billy’s stuff that he’d moved “out of the way instead of to his room as I’d asked. He’d do it when he returned from “hanging with friends,” he said, closing the front door behind him.
                I forgot it was there and on my way into the middle of the room, I fell over it, literally sliding face first into the 3-legged tree stand, the tree and the fishbowl-full-of-marbles holding the tree’s stem. The piano leg on the right stopped me as the heavy fishbowl landed above and to the side of my left eye. It felt like my head was in a vise and someone was squeezing.
                Someone asked me if I cried. No. Someone else asked me if I cussed. No. When I stopped sliding, I thanked God I didn’t pass out. I turtle-crawled around to turn off the tree lights because I’d spilled a bottle of water on the hardwood floors, and remembering what the floor folks said, I pulled myself up—I could walk OK--and towel-dried the wood. The table was toast, its three legs akimbo and disembodied from the circular top.
                I’d immediately emailed all children and siblings and BFF (but not Billy) of my accident and assured them I was OK. That happened Thursday night and by Sunday morning, well, it would be my first Christmas with a black eye.
                Once the family was satisfied with my story and my well-being, admired the re-doing of the tree set on an oak TV table, and after we’d decided to share gifts before another round of eating, we settled in. Fireplace was burning (I can’t say “roaring” because gas logs don’t roar), window, snow village and tree lights were glowing, as was this matriarch.
                Three-and-a-half hours later, the Conway bunch left, then the Hot Springs bunch. The local folks stayed a while longer, but not much. Several seemed to think it was bedtime. But it was only 6:30.
                Christmas came a day early at Couchwood, and all was well in my world. I hope it was good for you, too, and continues to hold sweet memories. Blessed Epiphany, and Happy New Year.


c 2018, PL, dba lovepat press, Benton AR


Sunday, July 24, 2016

Edging into eighty -- not at all a bad thing

Grandson Billy and former student/ choir member/present friend
James West at the birthday party


It's certainly better and more hoped for than the alternative, right?

My children (four + grandson Billy), inlaws, grandchildren, nephews, cousins, siblings (five, plus-inlaws) and friends Lydia and StefNi planned and produced the greatest party one could ever imagine.

 

The Salem UMC's (Benton AR) fellowship hall's round tables were decorated in red-white-and-blue (July, of course). The long, long serving table was a Southern Living scene with all the fruit, cheeses, crackers, cookies, sandwiches and goodies one could fathom. A sign-in table with small sheets available for folks to write their own haiku in my honor, a long table with some-stealthily-procurred and otherwise-gathered photos, plus a basket for cards. Unexpected gifts were slipped under the ends of that table.
 
Previously, the publicity included a flyer "commissioned by Gordon (son), created by Barbara (sis) and emailed by Carolyn (sis)." Gordon later posted it on Facebook and wrote an article (he's in Public Relations at Gulf Power in Pensacola) for the Saline Courier.
 
And what was I doing beforehand? 'Way beforehand? Sprucing up the yard AND the house, knowing that various and visiting family would be spending some time at Couchwood.
 
But Bermude grows from one pulling to the next, even through pea gravel, river pebbles and marble chips--all of which I'd de-grassed before--decorated various beds and the sidewalk.
 
Summer's heat meant an every-third-day watering of the north and west property-line plantings of roses, eleagnus, crape myrtle, redbud, spirea and althea. The life-giving water also caused the grass around the rock fence to spring up again.
Dead-heading the dianthus, the coreopsis, the verbena and zinnias to keep them blooming was necessary. Filling in bare spots with baskets of sweetpotato vine, and periwinkles put the finishing, last-minute touch on the yard.
 
Brother Guy, once of P. Allen Smith's employ, served as landscaper par excellence, and also re-sided the north wall of the long-ago-added-on back porch. And like anything new, making the old seem shoddy and seedy, he decided to repaint the other two sides so the entire addition looked new. Even to a new storm screen door.
 
But back to the present. Eighty-five people signed the guestbook and as many more sent wishes or cards to my Facebook page. The mailperson left cards from those who either lived in other places or who couldn't attend the event. Folks arrived from Searcy, Beebe, Tennessee, Oklahoma, Conway, Little Rock, Fayetteville, Hot Springs, England, as well as from the Saline County area.

But the attendee whose coming actually stunned me speechless was Karen Trout, pictured on the left, who drove four hours from the Piggott area. She is on staff at the Hemingway-Pfeiffer Museum and Educational Center in Piggott--a dear, dear person, who insisted that I was a beloved supporter of the writers' retreats there and she wanted to be here.




All this made me grateful that, as my daughter-in-law Karen said, my "village" was so supportive. I can never give enough thanks to everyone who had even the tiniest part in this wonderful celebration.

Edging toward and past eighty isn't so bad. I intend to live to be ninety, Lord willing.









Thursday, November 26, 2015

November and Thanksgiving: always the same; always different



 
 
     My sons, Gordon (r.) and Eric (l.)


November 2015 began at 7:30 on the first day of Central Standard Time with a call time at Bryant UMC. The dozen hand bell ringers were to gather for warm-up before playing “Deep River” as a prelude.

The very next Sunday, the nine Salem UMC women’s bell group––hand chimes instead of hand bells––gathered at 8:15 to warm up for the very impressive Veteran’s Day services––early and late.

As of Saturday afternoon, November 14, the long-awaited and long-planned-for SUMC church bazaar is history. Thanks to co-chairwomen Denise and StefNi, consultant Lydia and go-fer Glenn, the fellowship hall was transformed into a magical Country Christmas. A vintage tablecloth of Mom’s, and a glass milk bottle full of marbles holding live holly and fake poinsettias decorated my table of books.

There was so much to see and buy. So many lookers and buyers. So many folks I hadn’t seen and visited with in ages: Mike, Jim, Sharon, Libby, Ruth, Jan, John and Sarah.

With sales of fourteen books, I turned around and bought a carnival-glass pitcher from Roxie, a gift basket of Jan’s that included her last-available book, and a two-shelf, wooden rolling cart from the yard sale under the arbor.

As if Sundays weren’t full enough, Mondays include trips to the Garland County Library in Hot Springs for a weekly writers group.

A week ago, a group of friends who—for the lack of a better name—call ourselves T5OU (“the five of us”) met at one member’s home for a soup-themed lunch. I took a venison chili, Linda brought taco soup, Annamarie, cheese and crackers, Carolyn, broccoli-cheese and Fran had vegetable soup. Dessert was a plate of apple-butter bars (recipe below) and an apple crisp.

Besides those recipes I printed last week, I had clipped one from The Standard some time ago. I had all the ingredients, so I decided to bake “Apple Butter Bars.” Now, who keeps apple butter on hand, I ask you? I do! I do! Thanks to my uncle John and Aunt Frances, I had a gift jar from them. Here is the recipe. It had no attribution and I failed to date it. But I can attest to its great taste. Perhaps you can whip these up for Christmas.

APPLE BUTTER BARS: 1-1/2 c. all-purpose flour; 1 tsp. baking soda; 1 tsp. salt; 2-1/2 c. uncooked quick oats; 1-1/2 c. sugar; 1 c. butter/margarine, melted, 1-1/2 c. apple butter (or other jam/jelly/preserves/etc.). DIRECTIONS: Preheat oven to 350 degrees. In large mixing bowl, combine the flour, soda & salt. [I sifted them.] Add the oats & sugar. Stir in the melted butter and mix well. Press half of the mixture into a greased 13x9x2 inch pan. Top with apple butter. [I had just one c. of apple butter, so I mixed plum jam of Aunt Frances’s in with the butter] Sprinkle the rest of the crumb mixture on top; press gently with a spoon. [I sprinkled it with my hands since it wasn’t very gooey]. Bake at 350 degrees 55 minutes or till lightly brown. Cool and cut into bars.

Hope you are having a blessed Thanksgiving. Remember the starving children. Clean your plate.


 

 

 

                          



 

 

 

 

Thursday, March 19, 2015

Grandson Billy is 25 today!



       Any of you who know me know about the grandson I raised from the age of eight months till . . . well, till now. The only “raising” I do presently is present him with rent and car payment funds when Cracker Barrel shorts his hours. And I always warn him (ahem) about driving in bad weather. That’s a grandparent’s prerogative, isn’t it? Oh, and I send money for his college textbooks—one of which cost $250, he said.
       [In the late 1970s when I was finishing my distance classes for my Masters, I thought the person who charged me $28 for a used textbook was cheating me. He wasn’t.]
 
       Billy lived in downtown Arkadelphia for all of last year, so I won’t be able to check “head of household” on taxes for the first time. I don’t yet know if that will be a good thing or not. I certainly won’t insist that he move back home because of it. I’ve already turned his room into a guest room!

       As young adults sometimes do, he doesn’t keep in as close touch with “home” as I’d like, but he is back at HSU, determined to “finish” and find a “job” teaching in the early education field.

       Here is an essay he wrote in English class at age fourteen. I came across a folder with several essays and one formal paper. He gave me permission long ago to use anything he wrote.

                                      THE REAL ME – by Billy Paulus.
       “Do you think you really know who I am? Well, after you read this, you will know me all too well. You will learn that I love art. That I abhor violence and fighting. And. that I have many different outlooks on life. So, if you want to know who I am, prepare to find out.

       “First of all, I’m very creative. I love to make origami, because it helps me to relax. I love to read books and to write. I also love to draw and/or look at any forms of art. I think, and hope, that everyone is creative in their own special way.

       “One of the worst things that I hate to see is violence, so I guess that makes me a peace lover. I have always tried to be an advocate and stand up for people. I would never fight if I could choose to walk away instead. I don’t get angry very easily and am usually a very happy person. I just wish that I could do more for everybody right now, but I guess it will just have to wait.

       “But, the one thing that most people do not know about me is that I am sort of a philosopher. I always think that there is hope during a bad situation. I don’t think, I know that nothing is impossible. And my strongest belief is that no one is weird. We are just ourselves. And, being a philosopher, I know that not everyone has the same philosophies about life.

       “Well, there you have it. You now know more about me. You know that I’m creative. That I’m against fighting. And that I’m very optimistic. If you ever have any more questions, please feel free to ask any time. I hope you enjoyed it. Goodbye.”

       This almost made me cry—not tears of sadness, but of pride and warmth. Such feelings are due a parentis in loco, no?
      
       HAPPY BIRTHDAY, BILLY.

Friday, April 5, 2013

New recipes (to me) for Easter 2013

by Pat Laster

                
                Easter—the second of the two most major holy days in the United Methodist Church—with all its pomp and circumstance—has come and gone; only a memory now, but a great one.

                After services came family gatherings, and in the Couch extended family, we participated in that, too, complete with egg hunt for one lone Oregonian toddler great-niece.
              Our meal was a potluck at a brother/sister-in-law’s home off Brazil Road in north Saline County, Benton Arkansas. Another brother brought homemade (huge, luscious) rolls, ham, a layer cake and two pies. A sister served up a rabbi-motif platter of fresh veggies and dip served in red and green peppers and her famous potato salad. The hostess made a delicious-tasting and eye-appealing strawberry trifle. Grandson Billy’s mother (Billy was working at Cracker Barrel in Arkadelphia) cooked a great cheesecake in a spring form pan, something I never did! Other families brought other dishes, all delectable.

               I took two vegetable dishes from recipes found in “More Faithful Cooking: Favorite Recipes from United Methodist Women and Friends” of Piggott UMC. I’m glad to report that both got positive “reviews” from the cooks in the family. The recipes follow.

               SAUERKRAUT SALAD – submitted by Roma Richardson. Ingredients: 2 14-ounce cans sauerkraut; one cup chopped green and red bell pepper; one-fourth cup salad oil; one-half cup vinegar; 1 cup sugar; two teaspoons celery seed; one-fourth cup chopped onion; salt and pepper.

               Directions: Drain and rinse sauerkraut. Mix in other ingredients and refrigerate. Serves 8 – 10. (That was easy once I got the lids off the cans. For some reason, I don’t do can openers well.)

              The reason I chose the other recipe needs an explanation. In my recipe book search, I stopped at a green bean casserole. Why? Last July when I bought two used cars from Bill Fitt’s Motors, the senior Mr. Fitts gave me 4 quarts of canned produce from his garden that he’d put up himself. One of them was a jar of green beans. “Aha!” I said—probably aloud.

              But I would have to buy another onion, another bell pepper, a package of pre-cooked bacon (my choice to do this), two small cans of mushrooms and a container of bread crumbs. Done.

             GREEN BEAN CASSEROLE – submitted by Dotty Patridge. [The directions and ingredients were interspersed.] Fry 6 cubed pieces of bacon until halfway done. [I fried the entire 13 1 medium onion, chopped, 1 bell pepper, chopped, 1 clove garlic, chopped. [I estimated and added a heaping teaspoon of chopped garlic.]

             Add one fourteen-point-five-ounce can tomatoes drained. Cook until soft.
             Add: one-fourth cup mayonnaise, one Tablespoon Worcestershire sauce, one cup mushrooms, sliced and drained, two (fourteen-point-five cans cut green beans, drained. [I used the quart of Mr. Fitts’.]

            Mix and place in a sprayed casserole. Cover with crumbled bacon and bread crumbs. Bake at 350 degrees for 20-30 minutes. Serves around 8. [Or more, depending on how much each diner spoons out.

            This cooking experience turned out much more complicated than I imagined. The frying pan, though large, held only the first three veggies. To add the other ingredients, I pulled out the Dutch oven and poured everything in to mix.

             Afterward, my white range was brown-and-red spotted, I’d used four utensils to stir; I’d bought an up-scale-but-manual can opener  that didn’t work  any better than the one I had, meaning I had to pry the tomatoes and mushrooms out of half-opened cans. Still, it tasted and looked good.

             I'm sure the United Methodist Women of Piggott wouldn't mind at all if you decided to use one of these recipes. And I wouldn't, either.